Below I will briefly discuss and answer three (silly) questions I am often asked about regarding my interracial marriage. Please keep in mind that these questions are questions that people, either friends or family, usually ask me. These are my answers and they are not to generalize a certain group of people. I am exclusively answering the questions from my experience before and after I entered an interracial relationship. I am completely aware that your views may differ and that you may agree or disagree.
Also, for those of you who are new here (welcome!), I am married, and dated my husband for about 3.5 years before we married. My husband is French and I am Haitian. I believe that culture plays a major role in relationships. For the most part, we believe that we were able to connect because of our culture background.
Question 1: Do you wear a scarf at night? How does he feel about your weaves?
Lol, this question always make me laugh. Ummm, yes! Yes, I wear a scarf at night...when I am not lazy. I am natural and my hair takes quite a lot of time to upkeep. Wearing a scarf saves me tons of time. Max could care less about my scarf.
Again, Max could care less about my hair. My husband was well aware of ethnic hair before meeting me. Lucky me! I appreciate how Max knew so much about the black culture before he met me. He likes my weaves just as much as he likes my natural hair. Wait. That's a lie. He likes my natural hair better, but that's all guys, right? I truly believe that Max loves me for who I am and not for what I have or for how I look like. I can look pretty rough at times and he does not seem to care. Good thing I care about my image.
Question 2: How does your family feel about Max?
My family LOVES Max. My mom loves Max and I knew she would love him as soon as we started dating. We both received our family's blessings, and this is nothing we were concerned about it. All is well in that department.
Question 3: Can you help me find a white man?
Sure, I would love to help you find a white man. Ummm, just don't get upset with me if it doesn't work out. Hahaha, just kidding. This has to be the most painful, annoying question that I hear. Do women really believe that dating a white man will make all their problems disappear? I mean it's 2015, this question should be dead now. Any guy can be a douche bag; black, white, purple, orange, yellow. How a guy will treat you does not depend on the color of his skin, or what he possesses. I know plenty of white men who are douche bags and I know plenty of Haitian men who are douche bags, and same goes for African American men. Work on yourself, improve your lifestyle, and keep God close and a good man will enter your life at the right time.
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