Yes, you heard that. Make. Time. For. Bae. Too many couples are losing the relationship battle because they don’t invest time in each other. I recently read a research article that stated that the average couple spends 1 intimate night a month. Yes, a MONTH. That’s about 12 days in a year. This should not be the norm! Max and I try to spend at least 1 evening a week bonding with each other. Rather it’s cooking, working out, going out, or dining. We make that time happen. It’s a priority. And even that feels like it is not enough time!
It’s not until this summer that Max and I realized how much of each other we have missed. With our busy jobs, and busy lifestyles we have spent the last 3 years worrying about things that should not have mattered. After 3 years of being married, this summer was the first summer we had to truly enjoy each other. For the last 3 years, we have spent our summer months packing, unpacking, moving, house hunting, job hunting, interviewing, setting up a new home etc. It has been tough, and quite honestly draining. So I can completely see how couples, especially those with kids, can go weeks without intimate one on one time.
Reading that article helped us realized how we do not want to become those couples. We want to build a life together. A happy life. A healthy life. In order to do this, we have decided that we will have to start being very intentional about who and how we spend our time. Reflecting back on this summer, I can say that we accomplished that goal.
After 3 years of craziness, we decided that we owe it to our marriage to do things a little different. By a little different, I mean booking 3 trips abroad on the fly (no pun intended, LOL), and not worrying about the details, just going with the flow. Yes, we did this. Our trip to Haiti was planned 2 weeks prior. Mexico, we knew about months before going. And France was booked a week in advance. I would not advise doing this, but it worked for us. The time we weren’t traveling, we found new ways to explore our city. ALL of this was worth it. Just letting go, going with the flow, and spending that time with each other, and with people who matter.
Allowing our minds, bodies, and hearts to reconnect was much needed. We explored new cities together, we indulged ourselves in new food, we made new friendships, we opened our minds to new ideas, and filled our discussions with laughter and love.
Words cannot express how those 3 months with each other just enjoying life has made a difference in our marriage. We now find ourselves doing random things around the house, like cleaning and recalling and referencing back to those experiences. When we’re grocery shopping, or cooking, we’re making connections to the world on the other side of us. Our views of life and living have changed. We treasure every minute we have with each other. We make sure our days are productive because this means more time spent with each other. We look forward to spending time with each other because we have vivid memories of how good it feels.
I encourage all of you reading to find small and big ways to spend time with your love. Make that time a priority. Enjoy that time. Make the most of that time. Look forward to that time. Keep that time sacred. Do not fill that time with excuses. And most importantly, keep that time for just you two.
Summer 2017 will always hold a special place in my heart.
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